Here are 4 commitments Lori and I hope to make as grandparents:
When parents are near, we’ll be silent — In the ideal setting, grandparents should have raised their children to be adults. Their daily parenting task is done and they shouldn’t try to take that role from their children who are now parents.
We’ll be there for the parents — Parenting is hard work. A parent needs all the support he or she can receive. We’ll be in the parent’s corner as grandparents.
We’ll support the parents — Not only will we support the parents, when we’re grandparents, we’ll step away and let the parent’s model for parenting prevail. Hopefully the mark we hoped to make on our children will carry forward, but it will be their job, not ours, to be the parents. (Granted, if there was a severe problem, we’d step in, but if it’s a matter of preference in parenting, we’ll be silent.)
We’ll compete for grandparents of the year — Let’s face it. I’m competitive. This will be one more place I hope to succeed. Hey, it worked for parenting…at least I think it did…why not for grandparenting?